being an awesome parent

off the back of my last post 'we have become those parents' I really wanted to discuss this next topic, and in actual fact I think it was the catalyst for the previous post, I had to get through that to get to this post.

a couple of weeks ago I read a post on facebook - the knower of all things- that had a picture of a woman lying in bed pulling at her hair with a worried look on her face, and all these words around her head about what was going in on her mind, like:
am I kissing my kids enough
am I kissing them too much
when am I going to get time to do this or that
what should I do here
oh I should have done that... etc

and then  pic of the dad huging his child with the words Im such  good dad above him, and the caption was what goes on in the minds of parents.

and I decided 2 things when i read this.
1. that I woud ask the men in  my life who have kids if this is true because I know most women do already think like the picture indicated, and if not please let me know.
I did ask one of my clients, and he said pretty much yes, when he is with his kids, he is with his kids and not thinking about other things, butIi would very much like to know if most ment think this way
2. That I would make a concerted effort to be more like the dad in the picture.

Now please let me explain more about no# 2
I §truly think more people should be like this dad. Thats not to say we shouldnt get things done and planed and get on with our daily lives, but that when we are with our kids we should make more of an effort to be with our kids.
how often do we allow everything else in our lives to take time away from our kids.
And more importantly what does it say about our own self esteem and value of self worth when we know that the women in our lives feel that they cannot afford themselves the space to think 'I'm a great mum', and just sit in that.
Because you know, I am a great parent, and I think we're doing an awesome job. And I encourage you to make this statement to yourself and see what it does, see how it changes how you feel, and see if when you are with your kids, if it make the moments somehow clearer and brighter.
I can feel a hippy dippy mungbean rant coming on so I'm going to stop my self here. (please note I managed to avoid the word mindfulness)
instead i'll shrre a pic i drew this morning of me and squeaky inside my awesome parent bubble.

my awesome parent bubble

be awesome
and know that you are awesome
J