So are you going to breast feed?

For most mums this is a normal point of discussion, breast feeding, not breast feeding, feeding in public and so on and so forth.

I am all for breast feeding, I think its awesome, and if you can you should do it with your child.

BUT!

This one threw me a bit when I was first asked the question - "are you going to breast feed him?"

What? What do you mean are you going to breast feed him?

Are you serious? Oh my god you are serious.

No, thats not going to happen.

So this is where you can help me out people, why would I want to breast feed?

And just to be clear, I am not the one having the baby.

From a personal perspective the thought of it makes me a bit uncomfortable, I'm not sure why.

I think maybe its because I'm not the one who was pregnant, and so in my mind it stands to reason that the one who was pregnant would be the one who breast feeds.

People say to you but you can take hormones, how wonderful that you can feed.

And you know I understand that breast feeding meant to be this wonderful bonding experience between mother and child, but I guess I always thought that exprience was between the one who gives birth and the child.

Ok so now Im just spinning my self out over my own definitioons of what a mother is and what it means to be "the other mum" and what roles we play in life and as a parent, and why do I have such set difinitons in my own head?

(And so my head begins to rattle.)

But I can tell you this.

I personally have no primal need to breastfeed my kids, and so have no intention of doing it.

I choose to not to, in a world where we can do these things, I choose not to.

What would your choice be?